Locker Room Talk & Shot Podcast: Getting Creative with Cocks

In this episode of Locker Room Talk & Shots,  I talk with my guest Deanna (AKA Ruby) about how to get creative with cocks, lady dicks, and enlarged clits in bed. The conversation goes beyond just shoving the dick in a hole. Ruby and I discuss all of the things you can do to and with a cock before, after, or instead of penis in vagina sex, butt sex, and blow jobs. This episode includes some stories, a little show and tell with toys that partners can use on cocks, and tons of fun suggestions.

Don’t forget to head over to the YouTube version of this podcast where you can actually see the toys Ruby and I talk about.

You can listen to the podcast, watch it on my YouTube Channel @AnnetteBenedetti or scroll down to read the transcripts.

Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast Episode Getting Creative with Cocks

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Annette Benedetti  00:03

Hi, this is Annette Benedetti, your hostess for Locker Room Talk and Shots. The podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women’s sex talk. You are about to sit in on the kinds of conversations women have on their girl’s nights out or behind closed doors while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex. Think fun, honest, and feminist as fuck, and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy, one orgasm at a time. Welcome to the locker room

Today’s locker room talk topic is getting creative with cocks. Going beyond P in V sex. And so listen, listen, folks, if you’ve been with me for any amount of time, you have heard me and the ladies bitch about how humans who have cocks just want to stick them in whatever hole they can as soon as they can during sex. You have heard the bitching, and you’ve endured the conversations, if you’re still with me and you happen to have a cock growing out of your body, I’m gonna give you mad props. Mad props. And I like to think I’m a problem solver. I like to solve problems. So I decided to call up my bestie Deanna, aka Ruby, who has been here from the beginning, and who has dealt with many a cock. and we are going to share some solutions, and some ways to get creative with the cock. Not just the cock, the lady dick. Not just the lady dick, the enlarged clitoris. if you will.

This is a cross-gender conversation. If your partner has anything that once was called a cock, called some form of cock or even just an enlarged clitoris, we are going to be offering up fun things to do with it other than sticking it in. Yeah. Whether that’s sticking it in your vagina, sticking it in your mouth, or sticking it in your butthole, we enjoy all of those things don’t get us wrong, but we’re wanting to kind of stretch our creativity here, right, Deanna?

Ruby  02:37

Yes.

Annette Benedetti  02:39

So I know you all likely remember her but if you don’t, Deanna/ Ruby, will you do me a favor and reintroduce yourself and maybe just rattle off some of your favorite podcasts that we’ve done together?

Ruby  02:54

Sure. So Deanna, aka Ruby. I have been on many, many, many. I think my most infamous podcast was the watersports where we talked about how I am an Olympian.

Annette Benedetti  03:10

you are an Olympian.

Ruby  03:14

Silver medalist. And if you want to find out what we’re talking about, go back and listen to the watersport’s episode. It’s a good one. And we did breaking the myths of bisexual women. That one was a fun one. Had a good time with that. Boob sex? Yes. Boob sex. I was on that one

Annette Benedetti  03:47

Because Deanna has ginormous titties that she’s done really dirty shit with across her lifetime.

Ruby  03:55

Yes. But this just, I’ve been on a lot. So if you have not heard my voice before, that means you’re a new listener. So welcome. And if you have thanks for hanging out still with us. I also sometimes will, you will catch some writing with real talk with Ruby on she explores life.com I also just launched my own website. Got witchy with it.com and I sell witchy-themed apparel I hand pour hand mix my candles that I’m doing. I have body mist. I have PooPourri it’s called hex that shit, works wonderfully. So check that out at got witchy.com

Annette Benedetti  04:52

I’m so excited to be doing this with you. I have had some amazing guests recently, but It’s been a while since I’ve gotten to just get down and dirty with my girls. So this is exciting. I have a themed cocktail tonight. I’ve been drinking a lot of coffee for the past couple, a handful, maybe even podcasts but not tonight, folks, not for talking about cocks, my favorite word cock, not penis cock. So of course, I found a cock themed cocktail for y’all. I am sucking down the cockfight! Sucking it down. But we will not be talking about sucking down cocks tonight. Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. So that’s what I’m drinking. Deanna is not here with me or she’d be choking the shit down too. Because if you’ve listened to past podcasts, you know that I am not the Best Bartender. And when I try to make these recipes they probably are great when bartenders make them. They’re usually pretty fucking horrendous. Just add simple syrup. That’s my new trick to fixing them. So what are you drinking over their girlfriend?

Ruby  06:08

Um, so I’m drinking some Spiced Apple Cider? With some chai tea vodka.

Annette Benedetti  06:19

Yeah, that’s kind of close to what’s in here. Sort of not at all. But anyways, let’s raise our glasses and let’s get ready to talk about cocks. Cheers. All right, what do we want to launch with? What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think, okay, we’re in bed the cock is hard. We’re horny. But we want to keep away from the ” Okay, I’m gonna suck it” because you know what I do find myself sometimes going, “alright, I guess I gotta suck the cock  So I got to thinking in the past couple of months as I have been playing with cock. I’m like, I expect so much creativity when it comes to my vagina, my vulva, my body. I expect a lot and I get a lot to be fair. I mean, I sometimes get hours of touching, tugging, poking, you know, not poking, poking, and using a variety of toys upon my body and my vulva. My butt, like all of it. But I wouldn’t say it’s reciprocated fully. In that way, you know what I mean? It’s just not at least I don’t and I know maybe there are other people out there who are sort of well-versed in this. But I don’t necessarily give the cock as much creative attention as my vulva gets. And I think some of that is due to the fact we go back to the pleasure gap and we know once the cock because it cock is most likely going to get off. Whereas the vulva and clitoris and vagina take a whole lot more work. So I have been working on getting creative. But what do you want to launch with anything? Or shall I start?

Ruby  08:20

Um, well, I can launch with a funny story.

Annette Benedetti  08:26

I like a funny story.

Ruby  08:28

Um, so you know, we did our pre-gathering, thinking about brainstorming, we talked about slapping…

Annette Benedetti  08:40

Slappin’ the cock smacking. Alright, listeners, we did talk ahead of time and we both agreed we like to slap a cock so.

Ruby  08:47

So I have a funny story. And it really doesn’t involve being intimate. But it’s funny. So those of you that know me, might know that sometimes I can be impulsive. I’m really good now at holding back. But there was a time in my life when my impulses were not under a lot of control. And so my husband had just gotten out of the bath. And he was standing before me. And I don’t know why. But for some reason, then I grabbed his dick. I pulled it out and I just

Annette Benedetti  09:33

God dam. I’ve done that.

Ruby  09:38

I don’t know why it was just it was like, totally out of my control. I just did it and it was a shock.

Annette Benedetti  09:47

There’s something about the pulling and the slapping at the same time. Pulling with one hand slapping with the other the tightness of it before you smack it right out of your own hand.

Ruby  09:58

It was fun. And so he was shocked. Yes. Like, like, I couldn’t believe that I did. And then of course, there’s the Why did you just do that? And I was like, I don’t know. But

Annette Benedetti  10:15

Did you get to have sex after? Or was that kind of like, a sex killer? 

Ruby  10:19

Uh-huh. Yeah, I did. Yeah. Did Yep. 

Annette Benedetti  10:20

All right, so my cock slapping story. Now, to be fair, this partner is an actually I’ve had quite a few wins, I’m not going to say that over the past 10 years, I’ve definitely for you know, the first time in my life met more people with penises that I learned to like some rough play on the cock, whether it is using your teeth to pull along as when you’re giving head or a little slappy, slappy or a little scratch scratchy. It’s a good thing. And another thing that I’ve found that I actually can get into, definitely biting down a little. But we aren’t talking about cock in the mouth today, we’re trying to be a little more creative than that.

So I was in California with this partner. And you know, I think I’ve mentioned enough here that I am a little I’m a switch. Sometimes I like to be a little bit of a DOM or a lot of DOM. And sometimes I like to be a little bit or a lot of a sub. And with this partner, in particular, I have been primarily more of a sub. But he has been open to and even at times encouraging of my dommy side. So we were going on this longish drive down to the beach. And I don’t know what got into me, but I wanted to sex it up. We hadn’t been maybe very sexy, in a day or two, and I wanted, I wanted to sex it up. And we’re driving and of course, I’m like, Oh, I could give him head while he drove but it seems so adolescent to me. So instead, while he’s driving, I undo his pants. And of course, he’s like, “Well, I want to see where this goes”. And I just start slapping that cock and like and chastising him for whatever he was doing wrong and asking him to say this. And if he didn’t say it, right, I would just slap it again and spank it around while he was driving. And, I think it was interesting at first a very confused look on his face. But it got hard. And then when he said the right thing I’d like give it a little bit of a. you know, a little bit of a pet, “good boy”. And then slap it around some more.

And I don’t know where it came from. It was just sort of out of the blue. And of course, it didn’t lead to sex because by the time we got to our destination, it wasn’t as though you know, we could have sex but it was like definitely very arousing and there were like, trucks driving by and then he’d be all like, oh a truck and I’m like, “slap” not his face his cock. Like, “it doesn’t matter, who the fuck are they anyways?” Right? That was fun. So slapping cocks that might be one it’s kind of fun slappin a cock. I mean, it is. People like to slap pussies. Right? Here’s to slapping cocks. Cheers. Cheers.

It’s good fun. It is. It’s a nice way to try on if you haven’t. Sorry, I’m moving my glasses. Try on a little bit of DOM DOM work you know it’s a nice way to catch someone’s attention. Well, consent… you probably should talk about it and ask for consent like all right, we should rewind to the beginning of the conversation you probably shouldn’t just grab a cock and smack it without you definitely should not bad girl Deanna bad girl. I assume your partner forgave you and

Ruby  14:29

yes, it’s still a funny story that we have definitely laugh about. Many years later.

Annette Benedetti  14:30

I’ve definitely done it though. I do think it was in context of I was already kind of smacking the person around and then the cock was there and grabbed it and like more maybe I was already caught slapping. So now to all of you cock owners out there that are like look, I came here for the sexy, and like you haven’t gotten into that and the idea of your cock being slapped is like, that’s not what I came here for. Don’t knock it till you try. You might be surprised try it.

I’m just telling you I’ve never slapped a cock that hasn’t gotten hard afterward.

Ruby  15:12

True story.

Annette Benedetti  15:13

Never know, so but I’m gonna bring it around to what’s fair is fair. So we’re gonna move on to another slapping technique after I have another suck off this cockfight. What is the saying Turnabout is fair play, Turnabout is fair play. According to some wise sexologist who I was reading right before this podcast, there is an ancient technique referred to as Kunyaza. I’m sure that’s not what it actually sounds like. But I’m just saying it like that, because this ancient art is basically a dick being slapped on your clit is a sexy way of talking about what you see in the porn and what inevitably, some dude has, like slapped your clit with his dick. And probably the first couple of times you’re like, what is this all about? And, and maybe the third time you’re like, this thing, you know?

Ruby  16:20

I didn’t have that reaction the first time. I was like, Oh, this is fun.

Annette Benedetti  16:30

Yeah, I’m too analytical. Sometimes you’re right. I mean, to be fair, as I’ve been sharing with my 365 days of orgasms challenge. I didn’t have as much I just, I didn’t realize how little sensation I had in my pussy. Prior to this journey, I’ve been on and this, I mean, which really did start in many ways with this podcast, in that I think being open and exploring has caused me, helped me, allowed me to drop shame that I think was shutting off a lot of sensation to my body. I think shame can do a lot of things like that. But yeah, I mean, I guess you would think it’s like, Oh, why wouldn’t having you know, a dick slap your clit automatically be fun. Can you do you remember the first time it happened? Deanna? Yeah. Tell me.

Ruby  17:35

Um, it was unexpected. I believe you know, it was boring old missionary. But, um, he had already been penetrating. But then he stopped and I was like, oh, like, I want it and then he just started slappy, slappy, slappy, slappy. And it’s really arousing like, you know, they always talk about the cock tease. But this was more the pussy tease?

Annette Benedetti  18:21

Yeah. Yeah. Well, so when I was so I’ve definitely had my pussy slapped with a cock. I have not. I have not taken that to a full session. You know what I mean? Usually, it’s like slap, slap and then it goes in. And as I was reading about this kunyaza technique, let’s just call it pussy slapping technique. Can we just do that? Let’s not, spiritualize it, or like, I’m sure that this was a legitimate technique, but I’m guaranteed what I’m going to talk about and what I’ve seen in porn is not this.

So this technique starts with like finding this rhythmic slapping of the clitoral glands. gonna assume that’s your whole sort of that whole area because the legs listeners in case you don’t know because this is all kind of new news to me. In the last couple of years, the clitoris is much bigger than the little bean that you see poking out. It has legs that go back up and in our bodies that can be stimulated through external vibration pounding, slapping, and also then through the vaginal walls, the legs just kind of come up and around it looks like to me. So when you’re slapping someone’s vulva and clitoral at bean with your cock it radiates that vibration up through their body and, and rattles the fuck out of those other little legs. That’s my understanding. And so the slapping, it’s not like you just slap slap and you’re done. You slappity slap slap. I don’t know, find a drummer, find a pattern. Yeah.

If you have rhythm, if you are a musician and you have rhythm or a dance, this might be for you. And then what is supposed to happen, which it’s actually exciting to think about is that because you had all had this happen is then the vulva. and the clitoris, it swells. Come on, you’ve all seen… if you haven’t, then you are doing it wrong and need to start back at episode one. Work your way up with the sexy boo, folks. So as you slap the clit you could do with your hand too, but we’re talking about using like getting creative with the cock. This sounds exciting, it’s actually kind of a turn-on to talk about, then the vulva starts to swell and the lips start to swell that clit starts to swell and a swollen Pussy is a thing of beauty. It’s also a sign to you that you are doing something right don’t get scared because it also can look like Oh, an allergic reaction, but it’s not it’s, it’s a happy, happy thing. So once you’ve slapped it into its happy place, then you take your cock and you do long strokes all around it. And of course, the cock is getting all of this sensation.

My assumption is if you do it right and well and you’re communicating with your partner, then you both could potentially have a mutual orgasm. And I think I was reading and I could be wrong feel free listeners to correct me with a sweet email to [email protected]. But I think that they said that the actual name of this technique is something like to make pee or squirt but to make pee. But it’s really about squirting. So whatever. But yeah, so then you start stroking it with your cock and then you know, and then we all explode one way or the other. Yeah, doesn’t that sound amazing?

Ruby  22:31

Yeah, sounds great.

Annette Benedetti  22:33

Maybe we should try that and then check back in.

Ruby  22:37

Yeah, maybe we should

Annette Benedetti  22:39

See how it goes. Finding the rhythm. Maybe putting some music on would work. We should make a clit slapping playlist.

Ruby  22:49

Oh, yeah.

Annette Benedetti  22:51

Find some songs, listeners. You must know some songs that you think when using to slap a clit to the rhythm could lead to and… look at you. You’re like over the bopping around. Well, Deanna is an incredible dancer, she’s got some fucking rhythm. So you can clit slap. Now, listen, listeners, if you’ve stayed here this long, I should have said something at the beginning. But I want you to consider heading over at this point to the YouTube channel to watch the rest of this because as we continue this conversation, I am going to be whipping out toys and we are going to be showing ways to interact with to get creative with the cock that include using toys. Because It’s one thing that I was talking to Deanna about. I’ve got I mean, I’ve got that’s where my bedroom is. I’ve got a lot of toys. I mean, I went to just pull out the ones that I thought oh, I could use on or that I have actually used on a cock. And I had I thought I knew where they were. And next thing I know I had this mess. I need a cabinet system for them. But I got to thinking about the fact that when I have invested primarily when I’ve invested in Toys I’ve thought about it because I’m always worried about me coming.  I’ve thought about toys that will get me off and I’m like, why shouldn’t some of the fun be doing something fun with the cock? I mean, I like to just stick it in me when I’m ready. But so I just wanted to throw that out to listeners. This is also going to be posted over on the YouTube channel, which has a new URL, and it’s got the @ sign and my name Annette Benedetti last name is a bitch spell but I believe you can find me. Very Italian so

Ruby  25:15

Well, now there is one toy that I know you have that I’m interested to see if it’s one of the ones that you pull out.

Annette Benedetti  25:25

Oh, that’s interesting. I can’t wait to see what you think well, because if I don’t, then you gotta tell me what it is. I mean, I was looking at the array of toys and I’m like, What could I use on a cock? I mean, I have used at this point. Three of the ones I have now maybe four. Oh, and the one that I didn’t pull out during the dick slapping I want to talk about it. This one, is you know what I’m talking about. This is kind of a new company, it’s called I think it’s Deia guys look at this. I will be covering them in gift guides because they sent me a full set of everything they have. And it’s luxurious and pretty, and everything comes in cases like the one I’m showing you in the video, but it’s a beautiful case.

I’m going to open it and what is inside Deanna has already seen this. So one of the toys that they sent me, it looks like a feather a blue feather not and it’s not made of feather material. It’s made out of silicone but it’s shaped like a long like kind of stick with a feather at the end. And again, if you go to YouTube, you can see all of this I’m going to do my best to describe it to you listeners. It so it’s easy to hold in your hand. It’s like holding a pencil or a wooden spoon that’s not wooden. And the material is very soft and silky. It’s super fucking sexy.

This toy looks luxurious. And it feels luxurious. I also thought how dumb when I first looked at it, I’m like who’s going to use this to slap someone then I push the power button on the side, which I’m doing right now. I don’t know if you can hear this. Yeah, it’s got some vibration. And you use it to slap and spank and vibrate or you can use it as a nipple. tickler but you’re right tickler slapper or Tickler. So I think some sensory play with people who have cocks lady dicks enlarged clitorises  I mean, my first thing when I pulled this out, I was thinking about slapping a cock, I have not, I don’t believe I’ve gotten to slap a cock with this yet. But that is happening soon. I think it’s a great slapper because it gives you a little bit of a sting. As far as BDSM goes, this is like level point five. But the thing that’s cool about it is it delivers some serious vibration.

That’s very sexy if you like sensual touch. And then I thought well, yeah, I mean, you could how lovely would it be to take this little feather tickler slapper and to be delivering some delicious like sensual touch, up and down the cock and then maybe on the balls, maybe down to the perineum and then shock them with a slap. And, yeah, so that’s what some sensory play some attention to, you know, when I’m with or when I’ve been with another woman, I take time playing with their pussy because I know how long it can take vulva owners and clit owners to work up to an orgasm. But what I’ve never thought about is maybe one of our concerns, I think with people who have cocks is they’re so fast to get off, they stick it in and they get off.

Well, why can’t we also look at that as just another challenge? How do we slow it down? How do we teach people who have cocks Why don’t we help them learn how to draw out the sensuality, to really get into the sensation and enjoy it, and to elongate the time that they get that sensory experience. And this was like a great way to do it.  I’m going to turn off the vibration because I want to save it obviously you can see how easy it was for me to turn it off and on too. But this company, I think it’s Deia I did look up how to pronounce it several times and I talked to them. But look at you can travel with this case, you wouldn’t even know that this was like a sex toy.

Ruby  30:16

And then when it goes through the X-ray machine, it just looks like a feathered pen, a feathered pen,

Annette Benedetti  30:21

Right? I mean, what does it matter? Because like when I travel, I just bring it all in, they see the rope, they see the cuffs they see that, you know, but yeah, I think this toy is a great conversation about sensory play with you know, if you’re with somebody, you should love their body, their whole body and learn how to play with all of the parts, right?

Ruby  30:50

Mm hmm. Yeah.

Annette Benedetti  30:53

Cheers to that.

Ruby  30:55

Cheers to that.

Annette Benedetti  30:56

I just want another drink. 

Ruby  31:01

I mean, we laughed when we first saw that thing we did, but I think it probably has one of the widest ranges of potential out of any sex toy.

Annette Benedetti  31:15

In a lot of ways. Yeah. Yes, use it on the nipples. And, you know, so we’re talking about the cocks today. But I think also one thing that I’ve noticed is when I’m specifically with a cis man, I don’t take as much time with the body as I have when I’ve been with a woman. And it’s, again, it’s because that whole pleasure gap thing is so real, and we’re like “A guy’s are gonna get off anyways”. And we get so focused on it because we know how important it is. I’m queer as fuck. But when I am in a hetero normative relationship, my main stress goes to, oh my god, am I gonna come or am I not, and then it’s gonna be an issue in their relationship, you know what I mean? And so my concern isn’t my cis male’s body, it’s me getting off.

Ruby  32:20

But you know, I think if you were to get creative and take time, and not only just getting like creative with the Cock, but also really think about that sensory part with your partner and delivering that, that would also arouse you and want to assist you in getting to your orgasm.

Annette Benedetti  32:47

Right? And this is a good segue. We are going to come back and I think then Ruby Deanna, and I are going to start talking about that and different ways to really tease and arouse a partner who has a penis a cock, I said, penis. What’s happening to me, a lady dick an enlarged clitoris, how to really be more sensual with their package set up the entirety of it, we’re gonna get into the balls, we’re gonna get into the perineum. Should they have all those parts and make that part of your own enjoyment. So the that conversation will include stories, toys, tips, and maybe some tips. Maybe we will be back in a moment. Cheers. 

Annette 36:10

And we’re back. Deanna aka Ruby and I have been talking about getting creative with the cock we started with slapping it It really seems appropriate. But don’t worry, we made sense of all that for y’all. Um, you know, Ruby, what we should talk about is, you know, like, grinding it on it grind. When I was young, I was just a young thing learning to bang. I remember one of the things I used to do all the time, which I really don’t do that much anymore was use the tip of the cock on like, I would be on top to rub my clit until I came and then it shove it in then I was like, Alright, now you get yours. But you know, there are people who have lady dicks or enlarged clitoris, those who actually don’t want to be penetrative. They don’t want to use their cock or Lady dick or enlarged clit in the traditional way. And so there’s grinding have, have you ever grinded on a cock and gotten off?

Ruby  36:11

Yes, more than once.

Annette Benedetti  36:13

It starts with dry humping when we’re young. Whatever happened to that one? It could hurt too. I think we should bring back some dry humping.

Ruby  36:25

Yeah, I mean, I even have dry humped like a lake and gotten off.

Annette Benedetti  36:31

Wow. Yeah. Well, I didn’t dry hump a leg I wet humped meaning it was a naked leg and my pussy was out. And this isn’t last year, I got sent this amazing package of goodies called Slow Sex by a company called Bijuoue  Indiscret, I will share all of this with you listeners. There will be articles and links and stuff like that. And it was just full of body massage oils and clit balm and all that shit. And so there was so much of it. That one night I was like, Well, I like I’m gonna give my partner a massage. I thought that would be fun. And so then I didn’t know I had some balm on my clit and I was giving them a massage and their calf was right there looking sexy for some reason. And I definitely humped the fuck out of it. But let’s get back to the cock. You can do the same to the cock Right? Like yeah, rubbing your bodies together with I mean. Yeah, you can. You can.

Ruby  37:48

So um that has come in handy. During my period I don’t like period sex. I don’t I just my, my menstrual cycle, and I have never been friends. But I will put my naked pussy on a naked cock and rub one out.

Annette Benedetti  38:22

Because you want the sensation, but you don’t want the penetration.

Ruby  38:26

Right? Yeah, and we both fold get off that way.

Annette Benedetti  38:30

Yeah. grinding? Like I feel like it’s so lost on people. And I’m not looking… I don’t want to this is not being blamed on penis owners or cock owners or Lady Dick owners. I do think this is an equal-blame situation. Yeah, it’s like you start to put those two body parts together and you think I’ll just put it in. I do think there’s just something so sensual about grinding but before you even get to the grinding, like rubbing your body on the like, get it lubed up, get some massage oil on it. Rub your body up against it and not just the cock or the balls. You know, you can stretch it out and really get that so oh my god my visuals. I’ve never watched myself in these conversations before Jesus Christ.

Ruby  39:35

So like balls. I mean, I mean, probably not hairy, I would recommend them being smooth balls, but balls being dragged down your back is very sensual.

Annette Benedetti  39:57

What? I assume this has happened to you before? Yeah, how did they drag it down your back? What are they doing? Everything? Oh, I’m thinking about my dog drag, dragging his butt along the floor how they just squat up. So what were you doing is what I’m asking. 

Ruby  40:24

I was on my stomach. And it was I don’t know if there’s even a technical, I’m sure there’s a technical term for the position. But, um, his legs were on the outside of my legs. So, my like, sort of like closed then just one of those things that he probably was like, Ah, this might be cool. And so, he got up and he sat bounds was balls were on my back and he slid back and then went back to penetration.

Annette Benedetti  41:08

Interesting. Yeah. I mean, why not? I mean, I’ve definitely had cocks kind of slapped all over my body. I mean, not that I was like, it wasn’t like a plan it’s just all of a sudden, you’re like oh just slapping you with your there. You never know where they’re gonna slap. Hey, but one thing I do want to say you can use your cock to slap things. The clit the belly the the tip like start Oh, you can? You can slap a butthole How do you feel it was a good slap in your butthole with a cock you can yeah all right. But do ask for consents with special like how when you see in the porn and the slap in the face with a cock I mean, I’ve I have a feeling I’ve had someone kind of attempt that. I’m like what I don’t want to be slapped in the face.

Ruby  42:26

Sometimes you’re in the mood to be slapped in the face with a dick

Annette Benedetti  42:32

I feel like what’s gonna happen is I’m gonna say this and inevitably, either my current partner or a past partner will email me and be like I slapped you in the face with my cock and you were fine with it. And I’ll be like, “I have blacked it out. So was I fine with it? Was I?” I know I don’t know. Yeah, in the moment you get caught up and whatever, but no, I don’t like that.

But again consent, consent, consent, even when it comes to grabbing a cock and slapping it right? Obviously. Deanna and I have had moments where we have, you know, been fucking inappropriate. Although I did say sorry, I think I apologized when it was not asked for so but, but in case I’ve…If I’ve ever slapped a cock in a nonconsensual way, I just want to say sorry. So slapping the cock. Let’s move on. Okay, I have gotten requests to scratch balls. I’m not talking like scratch like you’re scratching a back. I’m talking like a drag. I mean, I probably started going, okay. But no, I am talking. I’ve definitely had more partners. Surprisingly, like really enjoy the claws up the balls. So, ball play, which inevitably involves the cock. You got to kind of hold the cock. Like such. I’m demonstrating for those who are listening. I don’t know; in the moment you figure out which hands holding the balls in which hands scratch in the car. Or tickling the perinium. I like the perinium. How do you feel about the perinium?

Ruby  44:40

I mean, I like it.

Annette Benedetti  44:46

Um, you can hold the cock hold the balls, and tickle the premium kind of like this. Like such. You can start with the balls, pull up towards the cock, and tickle. Yeah excuse me I feel like this is like you know when men do the bowling ball hold like when they’re being crude about women and doing like what do they call it something in the butt two in the whatever.

So, playing, stroking the balls. Oh, this is where massage. Let’s talk about massage and hot wax. What about hot wax? I was thinking about it. I have a massage candle and folks if you’ve not played with a massage candle yet, okay, I didn’t even know about them until the last two years. And I have one by Linger Boutique I will definitely have a link for they’re a fucking amazing.

You heat up the candle. They’re usually scented with natural oils. You blow out the candle obviously. And this is not about hot wax. It cools almost immediately. And then you use the wax. It’s not really a wax though. It’s made out of interesting oils as massage. And I actually prefer them to massage oils with that you get Yeah. And I think a little heated you know, massage candle wax on some dick and balls. That can be sexy You know. Then they can use their cock to rub the candle wax and then you can just slide all over each other.

Ruby  47:26

Yeah, that’s a good time. Cheers to that.

Annette Benedetti  47:29

Cheers to that. But why stop there? Why stop there? When we’re talking about candles? Why not get some hot wax going and drop it on some cock and balls.

Ruby  47:41

I mean, hot wax is. It’s not like it’s a long-lasting hot, it cools pretty quickly as soon as it hits your skin

Annette Benedetti  47:52

So don’t be a baby. Oh, you guys out there.

Ruby  47:54

For those that haven’t had any like, oh, the guys out there.

Annette Benedetti  47:57

They’re like I was just coming for the feel-good shit and you’re slapping my cock. Now you’re burning me with wax? That is not what we’re doing. Exactly. Although, if you want us to. Right? I mean, we’re willing, we’re willing. We’re willing.

Ruby  48:12

But we’re also you know, having the little feather down your shaft.

Annette Benedetti  48:21

Well, how about the feather down the shaft?

Ruby  48:24

Well, you know the shaft of the penis. Oh, yeah,

Annette Benedetti  48:27

I thought you meant shoving something down the urethra. We haven’t even thought of that. Oh, that is actually 

Ruby  48:34

Don’t do that. That is the thing I noticed.

Annette Benedetti  48:36

For those of you listening. I want to interview a couple that does this. One of the things that you can do with cock other than shove it in your vagina and slap it and drip wax on it and rub it all over your body and scratch it and bite it… is Jesus… what is wrong with us? But there are people who like to have urethral, I don’t even know what’s called…penetration. Yeah, penetration where you like, put stuff down the urethra, you just I don’t think you don’t jam it. You don’t ever do that? Oh, no.

But here’s what’s interesting because of course, one of the things you can do with the cock is throw it in a cage and if you guys have not listened to our very recent podcast with Russian dominatrix, Lucy, it was at the beginning of October because there’s a Locktober episode where it was on YouTube as well. It’s had some viewers of her sure she walked us through different cages that you could throw the cock in and by the way, I want listeners who are skeptical to take a moment I have seen a cock in a cage. I’ve seen a cock in the cage. It is one of the most fucking sexy things I’ve ever seen. I didn’t expect it. I have never remotely been interested in throwing a cock in a cage. But I’ve seen one in a cage. And it is hot. So take some time to listen. But some of those cages come with a urethral thing. You shove shit in the Yeah. I don’t know, man. That’s an even Lucy was like, I think that’s beyond what I’m capable of. So but you never know if you’re, if my partner was like, this is something that I really want to try. I would get the books out study.

Ruby  50:36

Yeah, I definitely try to search it.

Annette Benedetti  50:38

I think I will. Yeah, it feels like, but I mean, it must be something you can do. It’s doable. You don’t have to be a nurse to do it.

Ruby  50:47

Right? No, but you want to do it safely. Oh, yeah.

Annette Benedetti  50:51

Yeah. You don’t want to damage a cock. That’s for sure. So how did we get onto that? That was me, wasn’t it?  that was the cockfight talking. Oh, God. That’s why I haven’t been drinking during my podcast. See what happens. See? See Deanna? So are you ready to see some toys? Yeah. All right. So I was inspired by one of the recent interviews I’ve done, listeners, it will be coming in an upcoming podcast where I had this amazing opportunity to talk to a sex educator but also one of the marketing people at Fun Factory now, Fun Factory has given me many, many, many amazing orgasms this year and I’ve tried a lot of their toys. I’m very well versed in them.

Excuse me, but I haven’t other than the toys that are very marketed toward cocks. I’ve thought about them mostly for myself and this woman brought up the Volta the Volta is a new toy that I have only recently gotten. I’m holding it up right now it looks a little bit Well, at first, it looks like a typical vibrator except at the tip. It splits into two parts. Like if you hold it to the side, it looks like a dolphin with its mouth open. It’s one of the most unique-looking stimulators is not a vibrator. I guess it’s kind of vibrational but not really when you turn it on, which I’m going to do right now. So that Deanna and viewers can see those two, and you can hear probably, yeah, those two lips start, they’re almost like pedals at the top start to vibrate wildly. And you can see it, it’s got quite a bit of power

Ruby  53:01

Do they like spread.

Annette Benedetti  53:03

Well, yeah. I mean, if you stick See you can get them wide. Well, but of course, I looked at and I’m like, Oh, you put it on either side of your clit, which is of course what the first thing I did was I use it to put those lips. Dolphin, it does look like a dolphin, right? Isn’t the dolphin mouth on either side of my clit. But when I was talking to her, she brought up that you could use it on a cock. And I thought, Oh, why didn’t I think about that? And so I did use don’t care. I’m like, Oh, I haven’t been you I have all these toys. And I haven’t been using them on a cock when I’m with my partner who has cock and I thought what if I took some time to do some you know, you could put it on your nipples, you’re gonna hear I’m thinking about all the things I could do on my body. And so that’s exactly what I did. I took it and it was pretty fun. I put a little. What do you call them? The pleasure air clit sucker on my clit. That is, you know, it’s pretty much a clamp but with my thighs. And then I spent some time just playing with the Volta on a penis. And you know what happened when I did that? I really started to learn and I think I shouldn’t speak for this person. But I feel like suddenly we learned kind of some hotspots on the cock that I didn’t realize before. We’re super sensitive because when you’re using a toy on a cock, it’s not just the whole thing getting stroked any longer. You’re using the toy. Oh, I’m going to try the head over here. I’m going to try the very top Oh, I’m gonna take it down on the balls. Oh, I’m gonna take it below the balls. And you know what, for the person holding the toy during that experience for me, it was very empowering. I was like, Oh, I can tease you. And now I know this is your super sensitive spot. And then this other spot is, you know, it arouses you in this way. And there’s quite a bit of variation to the areas along the caulk, to the balls, to the perineum. And so that was like, really eye-opening to me.

Ruby  55:37

Yeah, and you know, it makes sense. You never think about that

Annette Benedetti  55:41

You can really get this around the cocktail, believe it or not, you can like, yeah, you know? So, does this surprise you? It surprised me.

Ruby  55:55

I mean, as soon as I saw it, I’m like, Oh, I wonder if those open up. So you could like, caress it, a cock in it. So I thought about that 

Annette Benedetti  56:05

Well and of course, the more you shove something down in there, the more intense the vibration is. So it was super fun. Definitely using that again. And it

Ruby  56:14

really makes sense that along a Cock, there are more sensitive areas. And I think we just kind of see it as a single unit. Yes. Whereas, you know, with places, there’s the lips and the clit. And there’s all these, we think of all these different areas that have different sensations. What, but we never think of a dick like that. And it’s why we’re so much has different sensations. 

Annette Benedetti  56:44

And that’s why we’re so much more attentive to and again, we spend more time on the vulva, the vagina, the clit, because it is so much harder for vulva owners and women to achieve an orgasm than it is someone with a penis. But what I think I am wrapping my mind around and wanting to share here is that the issue with the penis owner is the opposite. Let’s teach that person or help that person in that habit. help that person. Learn how to draw out the pleasure. Learn about how different maybe they already I mean, definitely I I could see my partner in this experience was like, Oh, wow, you know, it was like, definitely gave him a moment to experience something different. And then you do it together. And then it’s like, now we’re playing. Now we’re, we’re really, we’re really exploring together, each other’s bodies, which is exciting. And arousal

Ruby  58:00

It teaches them to like, draw out that sensation. Yeah. Like it’s not just about like, I feel like caulk owners. They don’t really think about sensation. You know what I mean? Like, they just think about, oh, I can’t come I don’t want to come out. I don’t want to come back because

Annette Benedetti  58:25

they think about cutting off some sensation. Yeah,

Ruby  58:28

so really learning how to enjoy it. Yeah.

Annette Benedetti  58:34

And drag it out. Not enjoy it. Just see

Ruby  58:36

We’re not all about just slapping the cock and slapping it scratch in the cock. We’re thinking sensitively, a little bit.

Annette Benedetti  58:46

I do love to slap a cock. But yeah. Another toy that I definitely want to point out. could see I was like, oh, let’s keep this under an hour. It’s so hard to do when you know, who knows. I was like, how are we going to find that much talk about with cock, but we have done it yet. Again. I’m feeling very passionate about the cock right now. Well, I just accidentally turned on another toy. I think it’s the cockfight in me cheers post cheers. Alright, so this is the manta by Fun Factory and this is a fun toy because what was it? Bill Maher? Is that his name? I think so. The Manta had its 15 minutes of fame on Bill Maher, who called this toy frightening. It looks scary to him. I’m like, dear God. Now we know you’re a boring way. I’m like if this intimidates you, my friend.

This is one of the more interesting-looking toys I’ve ever encountered. And when I first got it, I really was like, I don’t you know this was a new experience for For me, and it is, obviously, it looks like it’s very cock centric although I have given myself an orgasm using so for listeners it if you haven’t actually seen the manta yourself. The bottom it starts out like an average-looking vibe. And then as you go up at the tip splits in two parts like so in circles a cock basically the cock can go in the center of it and it surrounds the cock, but it’s still the size of kind of your average dildo vibe. Again, I was new to the idea of using toys on a cock. This is amazing. Epecially when it comes to oral sex, if you get a stiff jaw you’re like I don’t want to give a blowjob for an hour. You can wrap this around it the cock so that you know it delivers HOLY SHIT some great vibe Do you hear that on your end great vibes to the shaft of the cock while you suck on the tip. It also can take the place of a hand job you put the lube in and it’s got these great little crevices where the lube goes in. So you can do this basically jack off the cock with it but while it’s great for stroking it also if you set it down on the cock it turns the clock into a giant vibrator.

Ruby  1:01:46

Oh yeah,

Annette Benedetti  1:01:48

But I love this toy because yeah, I mean I can kind of stroke the cock with a well I’m talking be the ultimate dinner plan ultimate cocktease it really is stimulating you know ultimate cocktease right here. It’s made me sound lazy. I think this better than a hand frankly.

Ruby  1:02:23

I would think so.

Annette Benedetti  1:02:26

And then if you decide you want to jump on that cock you just leave this thing on it and that cock a big vibrating dildo that goes in your pussy plus the vibration and the base of it hits your clit a hand Yeah, so So folks, check out the manta this is definitely a very popular product and Bill Maher apparently tried it out which grosses me out to no end. Maybe I shouldn’t do that. Maybe that will like scare you. Oh, anyways, let’s erase that from this conversation. So there was that? And then look. Here is ultimately how I think this conversation should come to a crescendo its climax. If you like, I really liked the idea of if we don’t want to stick the penis in us. What about restraining the person who has the cock, the lady dick or the enlarged clitoris let’s say we restrain them. And then let’s say you just want to relax.

I’ve got this thing. Have you seen one of these? No, I’ve got this thing called the pulse duo. I’m going to show you the box it’s by a company called Hot octopus. Which is a really cool company. This is like the most inclusive just modern company you can think of. And this if you look at it it looks like it could be…it looks very sci-fi Don’t you think?

Ruby  1:04:04

It’s very little bit like a spaceship or like a part of like a space pod?

Annette Benedetti  1:04:11

Yes, they looked like a space pod but you can just put a cock in it. You put it on a cock now imagine your person who has the lady Dick, cock enlarged clit restrained and you put this upon their member and then you turn it on. And inside what you guys might not be able to see is inside there’s this thing that pulses and vibrates against them Oh. And I can control it with this. I have a remote control for it. And you just leave it on them while you stand in front of them and do whatever you want you talk to them. You make out with them I mean, I had never seen anything like this before.

Ruby  1:05:08

Watch some love is blind

Annette Benedetti  1:05:11

you watch it you go back to watching Love is blind you just lay right there baby. Yep I’m just saying I think that investing in like toys for cock is worthwhile Don’t you think So? But if you don’t want to spend money at all and you’re like okay looking at that’s all good and fine, but that’s not what I want to spend my money on. Fine. Here’s what you can do. Mutually masturbate.

Ruby  1:05:46

Yep. I was gonna say go the dollar tree and get creative. I love it. But

Annette Benedetti  1:05:56

What would you get at the Dollar Tree that you could do someone? Tell me

Ruby  1:06:01

so they have like the silicone like brushes for like putting on like, barbecue sauce. Get one of those for $1 Oh my god. It’s a great idea. Think about that sensation.

Annette Benedetti  1:06:12

Silicone brushes that you? Yeah,

Ruby  1:06:16

I’m gonna do $1 tree sex toy.

Annette Benedetti  1:06:22

Please. Will you do that? Oh, I want that. I want that this week, folks. If you’re like I don’t want to spend money a whole bunch of money on like sex toys to stimulate a cock. We will put together. ( I won’t.)

Ruby  1:06:40

I will put together

Annette Benedetti  1:06:42

Ruby is going to come up with go to the Dollar Tree. Here are the things you can get to stimulate a cock for your next session. You know what’s wonderful about this if you I can’t remember which podcast was Lucy I think it was dominate your dude or something? Or maybe it was like a BDSM one on one. She was like if you don’t want hand cufs, and she came up with all these household products you could just use for BDSM I think it was like sheath saran wrap to use it as restraints and I was like holy fuck and shit. You’re right. Yeah. So friends, listeners. We are going to put together an article just for you. And you can go with five bucks to the store and have a kinky kinky night of cock teasing and clit pleasing.

Ruby  1:07:47

Yeah, looks like I’m gonna

Annette Benedetti  1:07:50

Go into the Dollar Tree. I mean, why not? Right, the idea? Yeah. I like it. All right. Have we missed anything? mutual masturbation? I want to lean into it for a second like actually, that is one of my like, I don’t get that experience enough. I really like to watch someone who has a penis like struck the fuck out of it. Yeah, holy shit. I can’t believe I didn’t mention this while we’ve talked about massage and find out if the person has a foot fetish and use your feet to like stroke the car. Give them a cock massage with your feet. I need to do a full-on podcast on foot fetish but, but why not? We’ve already talked about using you know. Oh my god. We did talk about tit sex like tit sex, obviously. I mean, go back and listen to the boob sex podcast. Yes, I am not into it. It didn’t work well for me guys. I gave it a try. I will probably give it another try. Or two or three or 10. Who knows. But right off the bat. It wasn’t great for me. I just felt weak.

Ruby  1:09:17

But have you tried it with a woman? Remember, we talked about the nipple play on? 

Annette Benedetti  1:09:24

Oh you mean? You mean humping a nipple? No. No, no. Yeah. I mean, that’s different. I mean, I’m talking about my tech. I know. A penis and my tits.

Ruby  1:09:39

I’m just being very inclusive and thinking about all this.

Annette Benedetti  1:09:44

So you guys are gonna have to go back and listen to the boob sex. So have we left anything out? Deanna? Slap it. It can slap parts of you. We’ve got some toys.

Ruby  1:09:59

Just don’t stick to

Annette Benedetti  1:10:03

spitting on it. Yeah, spit spit. Alright, I’ve only done this once but one time I got really feisty during a sex session and I just spit on a cock just spit on that’s not like he didn’t spit on it, and then like, Why did actually I don’t know what came over me. I just spit on it. And the person my legit they were like, like the gasped and it was. I’ve only done it once though. You can spit on a cock spit on it. I mean, definitely don’t do it without some sort of prior consent. Like if anyone spit on my vagina without consent. I would kick them in the face. Although it has happened one once it did not kick them in the face, but I was mortified.

Ruby  1:10:54

Yeah, be sure there’s always consent.

Annette Benedetti  1:10:58

I mean, we did start this podcast with sort of admitting like it was with her husband.

Ruby  1:11:07

It all just well. Have you grabbed it and slapped it since then? No, I haven’t. Oh, there you go, folks. There you go. Not in the impulsive way that I did that day now.

Annette Benedetti  1:11:23

All right, listeners look. I have only a little bit of cockfight left in me to go. And we’ve got to wrap this up. But if we have missed anything, if you have ideas, I would love to create an article that is a long fucking list of like, how can we play with cocks and make it fun and like not just be always like, “It’s all about the dick. Like, which, by the way, is a valid complaint? But how can we make the dick as like, have as much fun with like, give it as much attention? Now I know. I know, there are women out there who have turned this into an art form and are listening to this podcast going, oh my god, babies. They know nothing. Like teach me. Let’s hear it teach me. I want to hear and if you’re a guy and you’re like, Well, I’ve had this happen once or I have this fantasy, like come on. I’m very accessible. Email me. Yeah. You know, my email. I’m pretty easy to get a hold of cheers because I want to drink some more of this cockfight.

Ruby  1:12:41

Alright, cheers

Annette Benedetti  1:12:46

Let’s wrap it up. Let’s wrap it up with Deanna. Any last thoughts for our listener?  Um, is it being outside the box think outside the box go to the Dollar Tree. Every last thing you look at say to yourself, Could I use this?

Ruby  1:13:13

Real talk with Ruby sex toy finds at Dollar Tree

Annette Benedetti  1:13:19

coming out in days. All I Want for Christmas stocking stuffers. I love it. All right, folks. And definitely, these toys are things that I have used on cocks and that I think could be really fun. And I will definitely make them accessible to you. Hey, where do they follow you?

Ruby  1:13:44

Ruby checks on Instagram. Also on Instagram, you can follow my witchy page which is get witchy with it 777 You can head on over to got witchy with it.com where I have my witchy blog my witchy items and I am adding new aspects to that website every day on Facebook. Get with you with it.

Annette Benedetti  1:14:12

Alright, and me. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram locker room talk and shots or she explores life. You’re also welcome to join me on my personal Instagram being beingbenedetti. Hey, YouTube, you can find me my new handle @AnnetteBenedetti. It’s so much harder to spell out when you’ve had some cockfight. Oh hey guys, if you have not joined me, if you’re a regular listener and you have not joined me on Tiktok I am @lockerroomtalk podcast. I would love to see you over there. It’s a pretty rad community. Yeah, and I do try to post almost daily, except for when I’m out and about on the weekends. I’d love to see you there. And I think that that’s about it. Oh, all the articles

Ruby  1:15:13

 Patreon.

Annette Benedetti  1:15:13

Oh, I do have a Patreon I can’t remember what it is, but if you scroll down, I will definitely have a link to that. And as she explores life.com I have some amazing gift guides coming up. Most of the products I have gotten to try out this year, and I’ve got some great suggestions. So if you’re like, I don’t know what I’m gonna get that person, special person in my life. It’s not all just sex-related. Though a lot of it is. So check it out. Till next time. I’ll see you in the locker room, cheer ears.