Male Chastity: Cocks in a Cage

Male Chastity 101: What’s This Kink All About?

Male chastity is a kink that’s on the rise. If you haven’t heard of it, you’ve either been living under a rock or you’re keeping it fairly vanilla in bed (which is perfectly ok!). For those looking to add a little excitement to their intimate life with a power play dynamic, male chastity might be just what you’re looking for.

What is Male Chastity?

Male chastity is a kink in which the man or a cock (penis) owner hands over control of their sexual pleasure to their partner who is often called a Mistress or Dom. The partner decides when the man or penis owner is allowed to orgasm, have sex, masturbate, and even clean their penis. This type of control is typically wielded with the use of a male chastity device which is also commonly known as a cock cage.

The Mistress/Dom or person in control of the cock is the key holder to the male chastity device or cock cage, which is lockable. They determine when the cock cage is worn and when it comes off. Are you following? Confused why someone would want to engage in this kink? There are plenty of reasons.

If you want a first-hand account of what Male Chastity is and why people enjoy it, take a listen to my podcast titled male Chastity: Cocks in a Cage with a Russian Dominatrix who is well versed in the kink.

What is the Draw of Male Chastity?

Now you’ve been introduced to the male chastity kink. If you are wondering why the hell someone would want to lock their cock in a cage, you aren’t alone. The following are some of the reasons men and penis owners choose to engage in male chastity play.

Benefits of Male Chastity Experience for the Penis Owner/Man

1. Male chastity is a power dynamic kink with the man or penis owner in the submissive role. It provides men with a safe escape from toxic gender norms that cause men to feel that they have to behave in certain ways (read: toxic masculinity).
2. With the penis out of play during sex, some men report other areas of their body (especially the nipples and ass) becoming more sensitive and erotic.
3. Sex lasts longer when male chastity is in play. Sex no longer ends when the man orgasms and leads to a more creative sexual life.
4. The penis owner may feel aroused throughout the day as he enjoys stimulation from the cage.
5. The penis owner may feel closer to the key holder as his constant arousal keeps her on his mind. It can create a deeper connection in a relationship.
6. It provides couples with a chance to deepen their trust.
7. It provides men with an opportunity to be vulnerable.
8. Because safety is of utmost importance, couples must learn to communicate effectively which results in a better relationship.

What women and key holders get out of participating in male chastity

Men and penis owners aren’t the only ones who are getting into the male chastity kink. More and more women are seeking it out as well. The following are some of the reasons it appeals to them.

1. Bottom line: being dominant in a kink power dynamic can be a rush for a woman!
2. The cock cage takes the man’s penis out of the equation during sex giving him the opportunity to focus on the woman’s needs while learning how to please her without using his penis.
3. Some women report their partners becoming better lovers because they have to get creative when it comes to having sex.
4. The penis owner gets to practice sex acts that please the key holder without his cock stealing the show. Some women report an improvement in oral sex.
5. Key holders report less stress during sex with the man’s cock out of the equation.
6. Keyholders can have the man do whatever she asks in order to earn an orgasm and/or time out of the cage. The house chores are getting done!
7. Some women find it easier to focus on their own pleasure and climax with the cock out of play.
8. Toys! Toys! Toys! While the cock is caged, it’s a good time to explore new toys!

How to get started

Male chastity isn’t a kink you just jump into. It takes some learning, planning and purchasing before getting started.

Here are some tips for newbies and beginners:

• Communication: Before doing anything at all the caged and the keyholder must communicate their interests, needs, and desires with one another. Why do you want to move forward with male chastity? What would you each like to get out of the experience? make sure you are on the same page.
• Choose your device: Buying your first male chastity device is no small job. Take accurate measurements before buying your device. Be prepared to buy more than one device before finding the one that works for you.
• Get to know your device: Before moving forward with wearing your device for an extended period of time, get to know it. You should be well acquainted with how to get it on and off before using it.
• Have a plan for your keys: The caged or sub should always have access to a key. Make a plan for the keys and always have more than one.
• Use lube: Use lube to put your device on.
• Check yourself: Make sure that the device feels comfortable on and that it isn’t chafing or causing any discoloration.
• Hygiene: Make sure to stay clean! Health is important.
• Start small: Start with spending short blocks of time in chastity. If your penis feels comfortable you can slowly add more time.

Choosing a Male Chastity Device

It’s time to choose your device. First, you need to measure your cock before buying your device. You will find a full explanation of how to take measurements for your male chastity device here. Once your measurements are taken, you’ll need to decide what type of material you want your device made out of. The most common materials are leather, plastic, metal, and silicone. Each has its pros and cons. There are also a variety of styles of cock cages. You’ll find a list and a complete guide to choosing your cock cage here.

You’ll find a roundup of my favorite male chastity devices below.