What you need to know when you go down
Oral sex isn’t just for men’s enjoyment anymore. What was once considered kinky and taboo is now a “must do” in the bedroom—unless she says otherwise, of course. Fortunately, the techniques and tricks for pleasuring a woman with your tongue (and lips, and more…) are no longer just the queer woman’s best-kept secrets. That’s right, anyone can make a person with a vulva and clit between their legs squeal with delight.
The following are 18 tips and tricks for giving a woman toe-curling oral sex. If you want to learn more, tune into our Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast on Clit-Oral Sex. You’ll be a master at going down on her before you know it.
18 Orgasmic Oral Sex Techniques & Tips
Have a Conversation First
Before diving in, talk to your partner. Ask if she likes her clit stimulated, and listen to her preferences. If she dislikes direct clit stimulation, don’t focus on it. During the act, ask questions like “Does that feel good?” to gauge her responses.
Build Anticipation
Some women enjoy a slow build-up. Start with a make-out session and gradually move down. If she likes breast play, spend time there. Use her nipples as a preview for what’s to come. If she seems impatient, get straight to it.
The Labia
While the clit is key, the labia also need attention. Spread the lips open, let her feel your breath, and kiss and lick the labia. Pay attention to her reactions to find her sensitive spots.
The Clit
If she enjoys direct clit stimulation, be prepared with these techniques. The clit is very sensitive, so avoid being too rough. Always ask for feedback: “Does this feel good?” or “Would you like it harder or softer?”
- Make Circles: Start by making circles around and over the clit.
- Lick Up and Down: Alternate between licking up and down and making circles.
- The Figure 8: Try making a figure 8 with your tongue.
- Suck on the Clit: Light sucking can quickly lead to orgasm for many women.
- Use Your Fingers: Combine clit stimulation with finger penetration. Ask for permission first.
- Penetrate with Your Tongue: If she enjoys penetration, try using your tongue.
- Incorporate the Clit: Stimulate her clit with your fingers while using your tongue for penetration.
- Breast Play: Use your hands to play with her breasts if she likes it.
Use Toys
Toys can add extra stimulation. Use a toy to penetrate or add vibration while you use your mouth. Switch between your mouth and the toy for extended sessions.
Don’t Forget the Butt!
If she’s open to butt play, incorporate it. Use a finger or butt plug, but never use the same finger for both the butt and vagina to avoid infections.
The Big Bang!
Combine multiple techniques: finger or toy in the vagina, a finger in the butt, and licking the clit and vulva.
Use Noise
Moaning while going down on her will make her feel good and enhance her pleasure with the vibrations.
Compliment Her
Compliment her appearance, smell, and taste to help her relax and enjoy the experience.
Try 69
Mutual oral sex can be incredibly satisfying. Who knows, you might both orgasm at the same time.
For a deep dive into oral sex techniques and more tips, check out our latest episode of Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast on Clit-Oral Sex. You’ll be a master in no time!
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