Being honest isn’t bitchy. Authenticity is badass!
Have you ever found yourself making excuses or giving explanations that weren’t 100 percent accurate, in order to either avoid hurting someone else’s feelings or being at the other end of a consequence that you didn’t want to manage? I mean, don’t we all do this? But did you know that women do it more often than our male counterparts? That’s right, women are less likely to embrace authenticity.
The question is why?
I’ve heard it said before many times that women often play to get along, whereas men often play to win. So what the hell does this have to do with honesty and authenticity and who cares?
If you haven’t already noticed. Many of the articles published on She Explores Life encourage women to step out of fear and into authenticity.
My belief is that if we start paying attention how
we are playing small and getting in the way of our own ability to achieve happiness–and instead choose to explore how we can allow ourselves to be our most powerful selves and encourage one another to do the same–we can bring about some badass change and begin to bridge the gender inequalities that exist. At some point we have to take ownership of, and take steps towards, undoing the ways in which our own internalized misogyny exists and is perpetuated. This tendency to lie or make up excuses, in order to play nice is a big one.
Can you imagine what would happen if women actually embraced their authenticity and said what they meant and meant what they said? What would happen if we stopped being so fucking nice all the time, and instead spoke our truth powerfully and authentically? I’m telling you right now it’s going to be scary. People won’t like you. You may be labeled a bitch, or as outspoken, or even a feminist (damn right!). And, perhaps most painful of all you will not be adored by the masses.
Are you wondering what the trade off is?
You will suddenly find yourself surrounded by people who appreciate you for you and not the fake nice girl you were pretending to be.
Steps to becoming more authentic and honest
- The first step in being more authentic is accepting you for you. When we begin to strip away our fake personas and embrace all the sides our who we are, without judgment it becomes much easier to give others a more authentic version of us. The second step is to stop worrying so much about how others perceive us. Who cares if someone thinks you’re a bitch, wouldn’t you rather speak your truth and walk away feeling good about not compromising or playing small just because someone else couldn’t handle your truth? Which one is nice and which one is a win?
- If you are going to tap into your true potential, you have to set aside that false self and accept your real self, flaws and all. As you do so, you’ll have fewer reasons to lie. And that’s the truth.
Your Friday Feminist Mantra for Authenticity
So here it is. Get ready to repeat it all weekend long. Your mantra for authenticity.
“I believe in myself. I am powerful and my truth deserves to be heard. When I speak and act from a place of authenticity, I can change the world for the better. I will no longer play small and I will no longer be silenced, because I’m a badass feminist bitch!
Live your realest, boldest and best life this weekend biatches, without censoring your truth!