Women & Relationships: How to Get Back in the Dating Game
There’s tons of relationship advice for women on the internet these days. And chances are, if you are a single or newly single female, you are receiving plenty of dating advice from friends.
It’s true that women can learn a lot about themselves from relationships. In fact, relationships can even help with important personal growth. But when a relationship ends, not only are women faced with contending with the heartache and the personal turmoil that comes with the loss of that love, they also also are forced to redefine the parameters of who they are.
Over time, it’s not unusual for women to see themselves exclusively through the lens of their relationships. Until relatively recently, social conditioning and societal expectations have defined women’s status and success by their relationships with men. This was (and is) especially true for women who have had kids. Thus, it’s not uncommon for the newly single women to feel like they are in a state of flux, and struggling to define their identity and establish boundaries in this new context.
If you are currently single, or are newly out of a failed relationship, rest assured, can and will get back in the game and forge positive new relationships. We’ve gathered up some of the best relationship advice for women who are ready to find love again, and put together some easy tips for you.
Here are some important things you’ll need to keep in mind when getting back in the dating game after a hiatus…
It’s okay to wait a while
Being single can be scary, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for most of your adult life. But as tempting as it may feel to propel yourself headlong into something new as soon as possible, it might be better to wait a little while. Take some time to get to know yourself. Fall in love with your old hobbies and passions again. Watch the movies and binge on shows your ex hated and do the things you did less of because of them. Establish what you want and expect for yourself before bringing someone new into your life.
With so many dating apps out there, you can choose your niche
If you’re going to get back into the dating game in the (nearly) 2020s you’re almost certainly going to be using dating apps. They’re the perfect way for busy women to find and meet people near them to potentially begin a new relationship. But if you’ve been away from the dating game for a long time, you may not know just how many apps there are out there.
You don’t necessarily need to try your luck on places like Tinder. Try more niche sites for people who share common interests or cultural background to yourself. For example, ArabLounge is a useful site for people of Arabic origin to meet people of similar cultural or religious backgrounds. And HER is an app for queer women, making dating easeir for the LGBTQ female population. It’s great meeting a wide variety of people, but finding people with whom you can share similar interests, experiences or upbringings can be a useful shortcut to rapport.
Meet people as many ways as you can
Of course, while dating apps are useful for women who area ready to start a new relationships, they are by no means the only way in which you can meet new people. The more you’re out there socializing and meeting new people, the more chance you have of encountering that special someone. As alluring as nights in with Netflix can be, streaming services can’t cuddle you to sleep at night! Join a dance class. Start taking cooking lessons. Learn to paint or sculpt. Do things that will get you used to interacting with people who share your interests.
You never know where that next special someone might come from!