she explores life columns

She Explores Life Columns

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All of our columns are written by female columnists interested in sharing their knowledge, adventures, and opinions with the SEL readership. Columns are weekly and bimonthly.

Anna Arroyo, Lesbian, Gay woman

Definitely Gay: Anna Arroyo is a 30-something year-old lesbian living and working in Portland; and she has a whole lot to say about the state of the world today and navigating life as a girl who is definitely gay.

Phenomenal Black Women: These are the stories of the Black women who are making the world better for all of us every single day.

Not Your Virgin Mary by Mary Jane. Not your virgin mary is a column about sexual exploration with a religious background. Fundamentalist Christianity to be exact. Mary Jane or MJ for short is no longer a virgin (in the penis-in-vagina sense). She grew up very religious but discovered her sexuality when she came to NYC for grad school. Now she’s navigating NYC in her 20s, sexual adventures and all. More about Mary Jane at @notyourvirginmaryjane on Insta and

dede johnson columns

Living Out Loud by Dede Johnson: Avid hiker and solo traveler Dede Johnson shares her observations, reflections, experiences and lessons learned with readers as well as her tips on how to live with Gratitude, Humor, Compassion and Curiosity. More about Dede at Insta @dedeshikinglife

Erotic Astrology Column

Erotic Astrology with Bubbles: Krissy, AKA Bubbles on Locker Room Talk and Shots is a 43-year-old bisexual divorcée and erotic reader of the stars. Her philosophy for this column? “We have been using astrology as a tool for a deeper understanding of and preparation for a more headbanging, toe-curling, & explosively enlightening experience in the bedroom. Let’s take a ride through the star signs and explore our sexual selves, shall we?”

Locker Room Talk Annette Benedetti brings you fun/much-needed content: Women get real about sex…really real. These aren’t the topics you’ll hear discussed in the powder rooms. No…get ready to find out what the ladies have to say in the Locker Room.

Brass Tacks Strong: Health & Fitness Coach, Coach Mac, shares nuggets of wisdom that she uses to help high-performing women reclaim control over their bodies. Find her approach to nutrition, movement, and mindset in this regular column. You can find out more about Coach Mac on Facebook, Instagram, or her website.

In Her Skin : Learning to Love You’ is an exploration by Angie Ebba about the ways we can cultivate compassion and fierce love for ourselves and our bodies. You can find more about Angie on Facebook, Twitter, or at her website

womens sexuality, cathy reed

HerBarenakedSoul: Join Author and Life Coach Cathy Reed in a celebration of female sexuality, where you will find erotic poetry and thought-provoking writing that dives deep beneath the status quo. Explore and nurture your sensual side knowing  it is the very seed of self love that grows change in this world. You can find more about Cathy on Facebook, Instagram, or at her website


Bisexuality in Reality: She’s just a bisexual girl dating in a gay/straight world. At the age of 46 writer Annette Benedetti shares her journey as she explores the dating as an openly bisexual woman in her mid-forties. You can follow Annette on Instagram or catch more of her stories here.

Real Talk with Ruby: Real Talk with Ruby is no trip down that river running through Egypt ( You know “de Nile ;-)” ), it’s a no holds barred approach to real life issues. Whether it’s advice, reviews, or personal growth, you can count on Ruby giving you the raw truth–whether you are ready to hear it or not.

Kate Warrington, OCD

Overthinking Everything is not a column offering how-to advice, or really any advice for that matter. As a twenty-something woman acutely aware (maybe too much) of how little she knows about life, sex, relationships and even her own body, Kate Warrington brings us into her chronic state of overthinking to explore difficult, and sometimes laughable, questions about what it means to be a woman navigating her way through coming of age. Follow Kate on Twitter and Medium.