Ladies! How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2019
December 19, 2018
From Science to Toys to Tips, Here’s How You Can Have the Best Sex Yet.
Stress, depression, poor body image, and difficulty in relationships are just some of the things that studies have determined negatively impact a women’s sex drive. If you found sexual satisfaction lacking in 2018, you are not alone. According to a recent survey conducted by HealthyWomen and Working Mother Magazine, 62 percent of the women who responded reported not being satisfied with their sex life. This means a whole lot of women are missing out on enjoying what they consider to be the best sex as well as the health benefits that go along with having a great regular romp.
Ten Benefits of Great Sex
While sex might sound like a frivolous treat worth forgoing after a long, hard day of work or a fight with your partner, getting laid comes with real health benefits. Studies have found that regular, mind-blowingsex offers women a whole list of benefits including:
- Improved immune system and fewer sick days.
- Lower blood pressure
- Better bladder control (yay!)
- Reduced risk of heart attack
- Less pain: have an orgasm instead of reaching for
ibupropgenthe next time you have aches.
- Lowers stress and anxiety as well as depression
- It gets you in shape. A roll in the sack counts as a workout!
- Improves sleep
- Makes you look younger. Really! Here’s the study.
- A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that sex may improve women’s memory!
Tips to Help Your Quest for the Best Sex
Ok, so if you weren’t convinced before, you should be now: the quest for the best sex is worthwhile. So what do you do if 2018 brought nothing but disappointment and a dead libido? The following are 6 tips for guaranteeing a sexually satisfying 2019.
Invest in Sex Toys
While good sex toys are spendy, they are well worth the money. First of all, if your sex problem is a result of an inability to find the right partner, sex toys let you go it alone. Yes, sex with yourself is still sex.
Sex toys allow you to explore your body and find what works for you without the pressure of another person being in the room with said or unsaid expectations. Even if you aren’t in the mood, the right toy will change that
Ok, so you are ready to go shopping. But where should you start? We have a couple of suggestions:
The Magic Wand:
Tried and true, this baby delivers the most intense vibration you could ever hope for. It comes with a variety of speeds and rhythms and delivers a fast and furious orgasm if time is limited. While the wand is only suited for clitoral stimulation there are a variety of attachments you can use for penetration.
This dual motor, remote-controlled toy is magical. It fits inside perfectly for G-spot stimulation and the outer rim rests against your clitoral area for double stimulation. It’s surprisingly comfortable and comes with 10 vibrations. This is great for some solo fun or it can be used with a partner to spice things up.
Girl’s Best Friend bySweet Vibrations:
This cute item is supposed to simulate oral sex. While it might not match that particular activity it does double as both a vibrator and clit stimulator. But this is not a typical clit stimulator, it actually sucks on the clit for a unique sensation that can bring on fast and hard orgasms. Well worth checking out.
Tulips by SweetVibrations:
If you want a toy that pays attention to your entire clit area, Tulips should be on your must-get list. It surrounds the whole clit area and delivers the perfect amount of vibrations. It is waterproof and comes with 10speeds.
Educate Yourself on Edging
Edging is an orgasm control practice where you bring yourself to the brink of an orgasm and then back off only to return to the brink again. This typically goes on for an extended period of time and may or may not result in an orgasm. When it does result in an orgasm, it is likely to be bigger and better than usual.
So why is this guaranteed to improve your sex life in 2019? First, if you struggle with reaching
If you are with a partner, edging inevitably improves communication, as you must tell your partner what is working and what isn’t…and of course, when you are on the edge of having an orgasm. It’s fun, sexy and even relaxing. And if you have a partner who happens to orgasm quickly, the practice of edging might help them learn to better control when they orgasm.
A regular meditation practice helps women become increasingly able to sense their own physical response to sexual stimulation and be present for the pleasure.
A mindfulness meditation practice is designed to help practitioners focus, be present, and release judgment. You can see how all of these skills help in the sack. With continues practice, you may find your negative self-image evaporating and that staying in the moment is possible, especially when you are getting it on, which gives you a better chance of reaching that much-needed orgasm.
Learn About Hinting
Another sexual technique you can use on your own or with a partner is called hinting. Its sole purpose is to build sexual arousal. If you are alone and struggle with getting in the mood…ever…this technique is a great way to get the juices flowing (literally). Essentially you build your body’s anticipation by stroking and rubbing around sensitive areas without ever touching them directly. For example, you might caress around your clitoral area, without actually ever touching your clitoris.
When you are finally fully aroused and in the mood, you can proceed with full contact. If you are with a partner, this can be done while lying and talking to each other or watching a flick. It’s a great way to get things going without rushing.
Learn to Love Yourself
If you feel bad about yourself, it is hard to let someone else love you. If you are uncomfortable in your own skin, then you are going to have an extra hard time letting someone else touch and enjoy you. So do what you need to get to a place where you feel good about
Perhaps you need to work with a counselor to resolve or change your perspective of yourself. Maybe you’ve fallen out of the physical condition that makes you feel your best (this could be different things for different people). Or, perhaps you’ve emotionally outgrown your wardrobe and hairstyle and don’t quite know how to feel comfortable. Whatever it is that is holding you back from feeling good about you…start addressing that.
Spend the money on a new wardrobe. Start a fitness routine. Hire that counselor or start a new hobby that makes you proud of yourself. When you feel confident about you, you are more likely to feel confident about and crave sex.
Try Something New
Are you single and struggling to find your forever person? Try setting aside your goal of finding a permanent partner and consider taking time to date a variety of people so you can see who really is the best fit. Try committing to a certain number of dates before settling down or give yourself a set amount of time to stay single before your next commitment.
Another thing to consider is researching relationship options. Is monogamy right for you? Look into options like polyamory and open relationships. It’s a whole new dating and relationship world out their ladies!
If you are in a committed relationship, perhaps it’s time to switch things up. Try out some new sex acts. Have you experimented with things like tying each other up, spanking, sex toys, sex in public spots, sex in nature and role-playing? There’s a whole world full of things to consider and the only thing that matters is that you both consent and constantly communicate. If you open your sexual relationship up to trying new things without judgment, there’s not a reason in the world you should ever feel bored again.